I often receive calls from clients after they have received their final custom invitations with lots of questions regarding the “correct” way to address the envelopes to their guests. Emily Post likely has more rigid rules than I, but I can offer some guidelines and golden rules when it comes to addressing.
Technically an invitation should be addressed as follows:
Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
Jane, Johnny and Bella Smith (this line is for any children that may be invited)
10964 Windsor Lane (spell out street name completely without abbreviations)
San Diego, California 92118 (spell out state)
Q: CAN I INCLUDE “AND GUEST” for invitations addressed to single friends?
A: NO or at least TRY NOT TO. If you know someone well enough to invite them to your wedding celebration then you should know them well enough to call and ask for the name of the guest they would like to bring. Not only is this more gracious but will also save you worry at the end when preparing place cards.
Q: SHOULD I HIRE A CALLIGRAPHER TO ADDRESS MY INVITATIONS?
A: Hiring a professional to address your invitations is never a bad idea and will definitely add a touch of elegance to your invitation presentation. Expect to pay between $2-$4 per envelope depending on the style you choose, preferred ink color etc. Keep in mind, most calligraphers can do much more than traditional script. Ask to see writing styles and choose the one that best fits the flavor and theme of your event.
Whether adding the expense of a professional calligrapher works within your budget or not, the most important thing to remember is that the envelope should always be hand addressed. No matter how horrible you think your handwriting may be, it is always better than the appearance of a computer generated label. Remember to purchase extra envelopes to allow for errors and consider any friends or family members that have nice handwriting that would be willing to help. A hand-addressed invitation is more personal.
On occasion clients have asked Simply Posh Design to address their envelopes using the same colors and font styles as those chosen for the main invitation. Whereas this option will remove the personal touch hand addressing provides, it is still much better than tacking on a computer-generated label.
Good luck!